I had an inspiring meeting with a group of wonderful like-minded women this week which helped me to think about the important things in my life. I am going to be combining the insights that I received from that meeting, with an exciting vision-board workshop today in order to reflect upon my life’s values.
Creating space for the important things is a must but it can be difficult to commit to giving them the space that they require. I often find that I am reacting to things rather than taking a few steps back and looking at the bigger picture.
I’m sure that some of you feel the same as me.
Writing the series about living your values has really helped me to ‘practice what I preach’ and focus on what is important to me. I thought I would share three of my top values with you.
I couldn’t write a piece about my values without including peace but what does this actually mean to me?
“Inner peace begins the moment you choose not to allow another person or event to control your emotions.”
Such a lovely quote and one that resonates a great deal. It can be difficult to implement but it’s really healing to your spirit when you get to a point when other people don’t affect you so much.
Another one I love is:
“Peace. It does not mean to be in a place where there is no noise, trouble or hard work. It means to be in the midst of those things and still be calm in your heart”
This one clarifies the issue a little more. Life is messy and noisy and it’s great to feel that inner peace is achievable in the maelstrom.
I find this quote motivating as it means that inner peace is more achievable. Not everyone has a cave to hide in with blankets and candles!
As an only child growing up in middle-of-nowhere Cumbria, I have always found value in solitude. The world can be such a busy, noisy place, much suited to the extrovert but it’s a long way from my comfort zone.
As I’ve grown older, I find that solitude has become more and more important to me. The joy of being alone and in a quiet space is wonderful.
“The quieter you become, the more you can hear”
~ Ram Dass
I can appreciate that it’s difficult to find alone-time when you have a baby or a young family, looking for your full attention.
My advice is that you set an intention at the beginning of the day and then plan your day around that intention. Sometimes, those times appear but you are so busy that you miss them.
By being more present in your life, you may find those wonderful gems of silence and solitude.
You may want retreat to the bathroom when your partner gets home at night. Perhaps you can burn some aromatherapy candles (I stock the beautiful Heartwood Candles in The Sanctuary) and put a few dops of oils in your bath. See my post on aromatherapy oils for some favourites.
Dim the lights and float in the warm, healing water while you let the thoughts run through your head. Don’t judge your thoughts, just label them and let them flow. Bliss…..
The three values go hand in hand and I love the feelings that these three words invoke.
I find so many answers in those wonderful silent moments. I get up at 5am so that I can find a space in my house where there is no noise except the ticking clock and the creaking sounds in the house.
Although I have described peace as something that can be found in the busyness of daily life, a great quote for those with young people in the house, I prefer the peace and calm that I find in silence and solitude.
“Time and silence are the most luxurious things today”
I hope you have enjoyed this post and it has given you something to reflect upon this Sunday morning. I thought it may be valuable for me to offer you an insight into the books that I read, ones that I find really valuable in my life’s journey.
This week’s book is:
I love her website too so check out the other pages. Her TED talk is a must!
I’d love to hear about your top three values so come and join me on Facebook to continue the conversation. I’ll put a post up there about the My Three Lovely Life Companions so check it out and I’ll see you next Sunday