So, grab a coffee, pull up a chair, create a little time and let’s have a chat. For many of you, the first week of the school holidays has come and gone so it seemed a good time to check in to see how you are feeling. Routines have changed and life can look a little different. Have you managed to create a little space in your day just for you? Was it in the morning or at night, perhaps a little quiet time during the day?
I know how busy it can be with the children during the holidays, and the lack of personal space during the day can pile on the stress. Your thoughts aren’t your own and time can be very short. I can speak from experience when I say that creating a little space in your life, around your children, will really help you in the long run mentally, physically and emotionally. It’s vital to be pro-active about ‘you’ and really take care of your emotional and physical health and well-being so that you can be there for others when they need you.
Plot Spoiler: If you wait for the time to appear, it won’t. You must make the time and that’s the tricky bit!
In subsequent weeks, you will hear some hints and tips about how to create that peaceful and calm life that you see others living but don’t think you can achieve. Together, I believe, we can make that space and help you to feel a little more relaxed and ready to face the world.
In the future, I will be looking at:
- journaling in various forms and why it will benefit you
- mindfulness and how creating space will help you in the long term
- values – what they are, which ones resonate with you and why you need to spend time reflecting on them
- alternative health such as aromatherapy, reiki and reflexology and why you need holistic health measures in your life
- combining career and motherhood and making it work
- Your life as a stay-at-home mum and why YOU need to be the priority
- relationships – top tips for a serene homelife
- book recommendations from great non-fiction self-help books
- links to other sites that will help you along the way
My blog will take the form of two blog posts a week combined with a short video, just to mix it up a little. So follow me and it will be like having a little coaching session during the week to keep on track.
So where to start?
I’ve mentioned a lot of subjects here, and there is a lot of choice about where to begin. Forgive me for being a little selfish (that is what this blog is about after all!) and allow me to start in my favourite place. So today we will be looking a the subject of journaling (day 1 – how to choose your journal).
How to choose your journal
You may be new to journaling or a seasoned notebook writer but choosing the place in which you write your thoughts in is important. I pick a notebook according to how I am feeling at that time and you could do the same. It’s important to pick one that resonates with you as it will spur you on to pick it up and jot some notes in it even when you don’t feel like it. I tend to buy from two companies and I mix and match between them. The brand I use for my daily journal and life notes is Moleskine, which you can get in any Waterstones bookshops or from moleskine online (I could spend hours browsing through their amazing website). They are very plain to look at but the covers bend back making them easy to scribble in (in the softback version) and the paper is of nice quality.
If I’m feeling really decadent and want to treat myself, the leather journals you can see in the image on the left and below are from Earthworks (Earthworks Journals). There are two types that I buy, the luxuriously soft leather fold around type, which feels amazing when you open it out (great for jotting ideas down). They also stock the harder leather journals, mine is engraved with Celtic images which I love.
I use my Moleskine for my Daily Pages and also my Creative Journaling (more about that in subsequent posts). Depending on the type of Earthworks journal, I will either use it for my Morning Pages or a Creative Journal.
I have talked briefly about Morning Pages in my previous blog post and also my Vlog but for those who haven’t read the posts, a recap. Daily Pages is an idea from the wonderful Julia Cameron who encourages writing 3 pages of morning thoughts and ideas to fill three sides of A4 every day. I have taken the sentiment and adapted it to fit in with my life (apologies Julia!). Julia’s book The Artist’s Way is a great read, not just for artists but for anyone who would like a little more creativity in their lives.
My Creative Journal is a different animal altogether and I will talk about that in future posts. You can see an image taken from one of my journals above or on an old WordPress site of mine called My Creative Life Project when I used to post images and thoughts from my journals.
In the next few days, I’d like you to have a think about the kind of journal you could buy, maybe research some on the web, buy one if you can and make a start with your Morning Pages. Combine it with a little personal space in the day and you are making a great start to a quieter, calmer life.
In my next post I will look at how to start your journal with Morning Pages and Journal Prompts. In the meantime, have a great day and remember DAILY me-time. No excuses!